It’s Saturday night and I’m home alone with my pups, as I am most Saturday nights. I’m an introvert who has taught myself to be outgoing and extroverted in public, but after performing my social duties, I like to retreat back into myself.
The daily struggle of an introvert is wanting human connection (because, hey, we’re human), but also wanting to be left alone. I say “no” to 90% of the things I get invited to, and then admittedly struggle sometimes with feeling lonely. I share this because I know so many of you can relate. And there shouldn’t be any stigma attached to being transparent about our human journey. Social media has become a place where most people only post their highlight reel and leave the rest on the cutting room floor.
So here are a few more things about my wonderfully introverted self:
- I do well one-on-one, but struggle when I’m in a crowd
- Networking stresses me out, so I avoid it
- If you invite me to something and I show up, I will almost always leave early
- I screen all my phone calls (yes, even if you’re my best friend)
- I rarely answer my texts and if I do, it’s usually hours or days later. And no, it’s never personal or because you’re not important in my life – if you have my number you are very important to me
- I often rehearse important conversations in my head before I have them
- It’s frustrating when people tell me to “get out more” because this turns introversion into some kind of character flaw, which it is not.
- The difference between introverts and extroverts is not about being shy vs outgoing. It’s about what powers our energy tank. Extroverts draw their energy from being around other people, whereas introverts are depleted by prolonged social encounters.
- Being an introvert has actually been one of my biggest assets in building my business because I prefer to carve my own path rather than following the crowd. I also prefer writing to talking which has helped me connect with so many of you here!
Sending love to my introverted tribe tonight! You are not alone, even if you are in fact currently alone.